Tuesday, August 16, 2016

God's Wisdom..

{a single pink rose for our precious angel granddaughter Eden}

This saying came across in my memories today on face book.

It really made me stop and ponder the ways of God.

I know He could have prevented the loss of Eden,

but He chose not to.

The first thing I want to ask Him when I get to heaven is


We just have to trust that His ways our higher than our ways
and that He knows what is best for every single one of us.

That is not always easy at all.
We are human and we want answers.

Our grief has been profound since losing her...

our 10th grandchild...


back in May.

I have been taught since a wee girl that

 God doesn't give us more than we can handle..

that just is NOT true.

 I have come to understand in the past several months that HE DOES
 give us more than we can handle because that makes us turn to Him
to carry us through. Otherwise we would think we can do it all on our own.

Also, since Eden passed I have heard well meaning people say:

 Just be grateful for the kids/grand kids you DO have...


WHO says that??!!

We are very grateful, but that doesn't lessen the pain or the grief


let me ask you this:

"which one of your children/grandchildren would you want to give up?"
Also, the well meaning, but awful phrase:

"you can just have more children."

PLEASE do not say this to anyone who has lost a child no matter the circumstances!

While it may be true...

They wanted

THIS child,

they loved

THIS child,

she carried

THIS child

they had dreams,

so many dreams...


THIS child

and they are heartbroken!

I could go on and on, but I will leave you with this saying:

My child{grandchild} died.
I don't need advice.
All I need is for you
 to gently close your mouth,
open wide your heart and
walk with me until
I can see in color again.

-Angela Miller

Please check out Still Standing website. It is a great resource
for grieving parents.

{I didn't mean for this to sound snarky or that I am berating any of you.
Just kindly asking people to stop and think....}

It's been 2 months, 3 weeks and 5 days...


Trisha said...

People just don't think sometimes, I have come to realize this in my own struggles with infertility. They think they are being helpful but oh, if they only knew the hurt and pain they cause with their words. I can not imagine the pain and suffering all of you are going through and I truly hope that one day we all get the answer to our simple question of why. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.


Anonymous said...

My heart goes out to you and your family.
Over the years I gave come to the same conclusions you have.
All I know is Jesus is there walking with me through it and comforting me in my pain.

Sarita Boyette said...

Oh, how I KNOW those words hurt for I have heard them myself over & over. I think people mean well, but it comes out all wrong. They want to say something & that something hurts. My continued prayers for your very hurt hearts, dear. Love you....